Have you ever felt stuck? It’s common to hear the phrases “I got stuck in traffic” or “I’m stuck on this math problem”. But what do we do when we find ourselves feeling stuck in life? Wouldn’t it be nice if the answer was an easy one? The truth is when we find ourselves feeling stuck the only way to get out of the rut is to dig deep. We have to begin asking the hard questions…to ourselves!
ASKING THE HARD QUESTIONS
Asking the hard questions is the only way to find the root, or reason, for feeling stuck. It requires being honest with ourselves about our emotions, beliefs, and decisions. As Danny Silk says, “The only person you can control—on a good day—is yourself.” In other words, the only person we can actually change is ourselves.
Asking ourselves hard questions is the only way to get to the root of any problem. Additionally, knowing what the root is is the only way to know what need to be done to see change. In other words, if you chop visible parts of the tree off and leave the roots, over time you will have the same tree again. Thus, it is imperative for an individual to determine the root, or cause, of a situation in order to uproot it and change.
Asking ourselves the hard questions helps us solidify our identities. The answers to the hard questions reveal areas in our hearts where we are believing God’s truth and other areas where we are believing lies. John 8:32 reminds us, “Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” If we want to be free and live fully alive, then we’re going to have to ask ourselves the hard questions!
As Christians, one of the main areas we often struggle and find ourselves stuck in unhealthy ruts is knowing our identity. Again, in order to breakthrough and discover our true identity in Christ we must also ask ourselves the hard questions. For example, “Do I really believe I’m worthy of love?”, “Am I able to receive love from God and others?”, “Do I find my worth in my performance or position?” Our answers to questions like these reveal the truth of what we are believing. Are believing like orphans or as sons and daughters? The truth is our experiences with our earthly fathers can affect the way we relate to our Heavenly Father. In other words, our identity is shaped by interactions with our earthly fathers.
Go deep. Ask the hard questions. Freedom and breakthrough are on the other side of uprooting your negative beliefs. You’ve got this!